Neuroaffirming Care for ARFID: Bridging Clinical Practice and Family Life
- Dr. Kyla Baird and Mercedes Palermo, RN
- May 11
- 6 min read
Writers: Dr. Kyla Baird, Clinical Psychologist, and Mercedes Palermo, Registered Nurse
ARFID: What the Diagnosis Actually Means
When many people think about feeding difficulties, they picture “picky eating.” But for children and teens with Avoidant/Restrictive Food Intake Disorder (ARFID), the experience goes far beyond food preferences.
ARFID is a diagnosis described in the DSM-5-TR when eating or feeding becomes significantly disrupted and begins to impact a person’s health, nutrition, growth, daily functioning, or psychosocial wellbeing. The difficulty with eating is real, distressing, and often deeply connected to how a child experiences their body, sensory system, and sense of safety. We need to understand the child's personal experience related to food in order to adequately understand their needs.
ARFID Is Not One Experience
There is no single presentation of ARFID. Children, teens, and adults can experience ARFID in very different ways. Researchers and clinicians often describe several primary “drivers” of ARFID:
Sensory Sensitivity
Some individuals experience strong sensory reactions to food textures, smells, temperatures, appearances, or even being near certain foods.
Examples may include:
“I can’t be in the room with mushrooms.”
“I only eat dry foods.”
For these individuals, food can feel overwhelming or unsafe from a sensory perspective.
Fear of Aversive Outcomes
Some children develop intense fears related to eating, often after a distressing experience or because their brain predicts danger.
Examples may include:
Fear of choking
Fear of vomiting
Fear of allergic reactions or contamination
A child may say:
“What if it has peanuts?”
“I might choke.”
The body’s threat system can become highly activated around food, even when food is objectively safe.
Lack of Interest in Eating or Food
For some individuals, eating is not naturally motivating. They may:
Forget to eat
Have weak or inconsistent hunger cues
Feel full very quickly
A child might simply say:
“I forgot to eat.”
Mixed Presentations
Many individuals experience a combination of these drivers rather than fitting neatly into one category.
ARFID Rarely Travels Alone
ARFID frequently overlaps with other neurodevelopmental and mental health profiles. Research has identified particularly strong overlap between ARFID and neurodivergent experiences, including autism and ADHD.
This overlap matters because it changes how we understand eating challenges.
ARFID and Neurodivergent Profiles
Many neurodivergent individuals experience differences that can directly impact eating, including:
Sensory Differences
Food is a highly sensory experience. Texture, smell, temperature, appearance, and taste can all influence whether food feels manageable or overwhelming.
Interoceptive Differences
Some individuals experience differences in noticing internal body cues such as:
Hunger
Fullness
Nausea
This can make eating less intuitive and harder to regulate based on bodily signals alone.
Faster Fight / Flight / Freeze Activation
For some children, the nervous system shifts into survival mode more quickly around food-related stressors. Eating may trigger genuine distress rather than oppositional behaviour.
Need for Predictability and Control
Predictability often helps the nervous system feel safer. Changes in foods, routines, presentation, or expectations can increase anxiety and dysregulation.
Why Understanding the Overlap Matters
Understanding the connection between ARFID and neurodivergence can help shift the conversation from behaviour to neurobiology.
It Helps Explain the “Why”
Children are not simply being difficult or defiant. Their eating experiences are often connected to differences in sensory processing, nervous system activation, interoception, and anxiety.
It Guides More Effective Support
Support strategies are often more successful when they focus on regulation, predictability, and safety rather than pressure or compliance.
It Shapes Expectations
Not every child will experience mealtimes the same way. Flexibility and individualized support matter.
It Supports Identity and Reduces Shame
For many children and families, understanding the neurobiological underpinnings of ARFID can reduce shame and increase self-understanding:
“This is how my body works.”
Creating the Conditions for Regulation
One of the overarching goals in supporting children with ARFID is helping them stay regulated in the presence of food.
Regulation is often a prerequisite for eating.
Environment Supports
Children may benefit from:
Sensory-friendly setups
Reduced noise
Headphones
Flexible seating such as sitting on the floor, standing, or using alternative chairs
Regulation Supports
Some children regulate more effectively when they have:
Screens or preferred items nearby
Movement breaks
Calming tools
Structure and Predictability
Predictability can help reduce stress around meals. Supports may include:
Timers or intentionally avoiding timers depending on the child
Eating near others or separately based on comfort and regulation needs
Support With Eating
Some children benefit from:
Help getting started
Co-regulation during meals
Reduced pressure and increased emotional support
The goal is not perfection at mealtimes. The goal is supporting regulation and safety around food.
Reflecting on Mealtime Expectations
Caregivers often carry understandable expectations about what mealtimes “should” look like. Reflection can help families identify what their child truly needs.
Questions to consider:
What does a “successful” mealtime look like to you?
Where do those expectations come from?
What emotions come up when your child needs supports such as headphones, movement, or space during meals?
What is your child needing at mealtimes right now?
Which supports help them stay regulated?
For some families, mealtimes may not become the most socially connected part of the day — and that is okay.
When Sensory Differences Drive Eating
For children whose eating is strongly influenced by sensory sensitivity, increasing predictability and safety is often an important starting point.
Strategies may include:
Beginning with safe foods
Allowing interaction before eating (looking, touching, smelling, tasting)
Making very small, structured food changes over time. This gradual process is sometimes referred to as “food chaining,” where new foods are introduced through similarities to already accepted foods.
The goal is not immediate expansion. The goal is increasing sensory tolerance, familiarity, and feelings of safety.
When Hunger Is Not Driving Eating
Some children with ARFID do not reliably experience or respond to hunger cues.
Common experiences may include:
Weak or inconsistent hunger signals
Early fullness
Forgetting to eat
Supports may include:
Structured eating times
Pairing eating with routines or activities
External reminders
Smaller, more frequent meals
The goal is supporting adequate intake without relying solely on internal hunger cues.
If the Brain Is Predicting Danger
For some children, eating feels dangerous because the brain is predicting harm.
In these moments, the child is responding to the prediction — not simply refusing food.
Support approaches may include:
Naming the fear
Externalizing the fear (“your brain is predicting…”)
Normalizing body responses
Gradual exposure
Probability testing
Tracking predictions versus outcomes
Examples may include:
“What did your brain say would happen?”
“What actually happened?”
The goal is helping the brain slowly update its predictions about safety over time.
Final Thoughts
ARFID is a complex feeding disorder shaped by sensory experiences, nervous system responses, anxiety, interoception, and neurodevelopmental differences. Understanding the “why” behind eating challenges can help shift support away from pressure and toward regulation, safety, predictability, and compassion.
For many families, support begins not with forcing food, but with understanding the child’s experience of eating in the first place.
FREE RESOURCES
Click on the image below to download a pdf School Accommodations list for ARFID by Mercedes Palermo, RN. Click here to share it on your socials!
Click the image below to download the School Accommodations for ARFID advocacy letter, created by Solasta Psychology.
To learn more about ARFID or to connect with skilled providers who are familiar with it please reach out to Solasta Psychology
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Additional resources:
National Eating Disorder Information Centre (NEDIC) – www.nedic.ca
ARFID Awareness UK – www.arfidawarenessuk.org
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